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Carmella Guiol's avatar

Sarah, I really appreciate your take on this debate and I think you have put into words a lot of the ideas that I've been grappling with for a while. It has been really hard for me personally as a highly educated liberal woman to come to terms with my own life /choice to be a homemaker at this stage of my life. Instead of embracing it and enjoying it, I feel wracked with judgement and guilt for not doing something "more" with my life/education/intellect.

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Emily's avatar

Totally agree that there is a connotation of weakness and lack of seriousness associated with femininity, child rearing, “domestic tasks.” And I think it’s very fair to point out that this is an unfair element in the (very big!!) reaction to BF Times article. It’s been refreshing to see some books (recently, Boymom and When You Care— and would count Ordinary Insanity among these too ☺️) tackle these topics that the left has abandoned/avoided.

A pain point for me with BF - in a time when JD Vance and his ilk - is that it glamorizes a lifestyle and type of family that the right weaponizes on the country as a whole. Does BF have a responsibility to grapple with that? My definition of feminism- which includes an expansive care for others, particularly the marginalized, that looks out for more than your right to individual choice- would say yes.

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